Marriage is a pleasant and memorable moment in a person’s life. It brings peace to the heart and starts a pure relationship based on love and trust. This is when a new life begins, and people move forward with new hopes, dreams, and responsibilities.

But sadly, in our society, this happy moment becomes scary and stressful for girls. When she hopes for love and safety, that same moment becomes sad and helpless for her. This happens because when making such an important decision about marriage, no one asks for her opinion or gives her any choice. Parents make decisions based on what they think is right from their experience, but they don’t care about their daughter’s feelings, emotions, or what she likes.

What’s even sadder is that if a girl expresses her own preference, it is considered against honor, upbringing, or character. Because of this, girls who want to start their lives happily begin to feel burdened, pressured, and frustrated by this same relationship.

Islam has handled this delicate situation with great wisdom and kindness. Islamic law says that marriage is not just a ceremony but a sacred relationship that needs both the girl and boy to agree to it. So, it’s important to know that marrying someone you like is not wrong—it’s actually the girl’s right that Islamic law has given her.

Although parents usually choose good matches for their daughters, they must never ignore what their daughters want, and daughters should also value their parents’ opinions because trust between family members is what makes relationships successful. To keep this trust strong, both parents and children should remember the following points:

  1. In Islam, marrying someone you like is never forbidden. In fact, the girl’s agreement is a basic requirement for marriage. Islam says that marriage is the solution for pure love, while forced marriage is considered invalid. 1
  2. Islam does allow girls to marry someone they like, but it considers a marriage done by running away without the guardian’s (Wali) permission to be invalid. 2
  3. The main purpose of marriage is described as finding peace, love, and mutual kindness in life. This peace can only be achieved when both people like each other, when their hearts accept each other and want to be together. If there’s no liking and it’s forced, then hearts don’t find peace, love doesn’t grow, and the main purpose of marriage cannot be achieved.
  4. Young boys and girls who want to marry for love must always remember that marriage is only successful when it’s free from sin because relationships based on pure feelings last longer, while marriages based on sinful relationships usually end badly.

Dear respected readers, the main point is that marrying someone you like is not just about feelings or social customs, but it’s an important religious and moral matter that directly affects the individual, family, and entire society. Islam has given very clear and balanced guidance on this issue. It neither allows blind love nor accepts cruelty and force. Islamic law has presented marriage as an honorable right for both girls and boys, in which agreement has basic importance.

Therefore, what’s needed is that both parents and young people should examine their attitudes and decisions in the light of Islamic teachings. Parents should understand their children’s feelings and preferences, especially their daughters’, and young people should keep their relationships pure while also valuing their parents’ opinions and experience.

If there is mutual trust, Islamic guidance, and sincere intentions, then marrying someone you like is not only allowed but can become a successful, happy, and lasting relationship.

May Allah give us the ability to fulfill the pure relationship of marriage with its true dignity, and may He purify our society from cruel customs and enlighten it with the light of Islamic teachings. Amen.

  1. (Surah An-Nisa: 3, Sahih Bukhari: 6969, Sunan Ibn Majah: 184)
  2. (Jami Tirmidhi: 1101, Sunan Abu Dawood: 2083)
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