Parenting indeed is one of the most challenging tasks in the whole world. At times, it can feel like a roller coaster ride, but with the right tools and right guidance, it can be made easy. We as Muslims believe that every small step, we take in guiding our children both they and we will be rewarded by Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ). It will take us all as a family closer to Jannah, In Sha’Allah.
Pregnancy: Your parenthood starts from the day you know that you are going to be a mother or father in a few months. No one can make a child as perfect as Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) as mentioned in Qur’an:
In the Qur’an in Surah Al-Muminoon, Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) says,
وَلَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسٰنَ مِن سُلٰلَةٍ مِّن طِينٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلْنٰهُ نُطْفَةً فِى قَرَارٍ مَّكِينٍ ثُمَّ خَلَقْنَا النُّطْفَةَ عَلَقَةً فَخَلَقْنَا الْعَلَقَةَ مُضْغَةً فَخَلَقْنَا الْمُضْغَةَ عِظٰمًا فَكَسَوْنَا الْعِظٰمَ لَحْمًا ثُمَّ أَنشَأْنٰهُ خَلْقًا ءَاخَرَ ۚ فَتَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ أَحْسَنُ الْخٰلِقِينَ
“Verily We created man from a product of wet earth; Then placed him as a drop (of seed) in a safe lodging; Then fashioned We the drop a clot, then fashioned We the clot a little lump, then fashioned We the little lump bones, then clothed the bones with flesh, and then produced it as another creation. So blessed be Allah, the Best of creators!”
It is the foundation phase of the upcoming life. We as parents, should keep ourselves on the right track as it ultimately affects the child in the womb. Ambiya Alaihi Salam in the past prayed to Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) to give them pious children. Here are few supplications in the Holy Qur’an to be made during pregnancy:
Du’a of Zakariya Alaihi Salam:
Zakariya (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) was known for his virtues and goodness. He was the caretaker of Mariam (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) as well. He asked for a child in his old age and his wife was barren, but Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) gifted him Yahya (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ). We should also read these duas.
رَبِّ لَا تَذَرْنِى فَرْدًا وَأَنتَ خَيْرُ الْوٰرِثِينَ
“My Lord! Leave me not childless, though Thou art the best of inheritors.”
رَبِّ هَبْ لِى مِن لَّدُنكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً ۖ إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَآءِ
“My Lord! Bestow upon me of Thy bounty goodly offspring. Lo! Thou art the Hearer of Prayer.”
[Al i Imran: 38]
Du’a of Ibrahim (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ):
Ibrahim (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) was one the most noble Prophets to be mentioned in Qur’an. He was titled as “Khalil Ullah” because of his sacrifices and dutifulness towards Islam. He made dua for a pious child, and was bestowed with the best child, Ismail (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ). Every Muslim should make this du’a.
رَبِّ هَبْ لِى مِنَ الصّٰلِحِينَ
“My Lord, grant me [a child] from among the righteous.”
Du’a of the mother of Maryam (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ):
Maryam (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) was a very noble child from beginning. She was a devoted Muslimah. When Zakariya (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) once visited her, there were off-seasoned fruits in her room. Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) granted her a son, Isa (عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ) without father as a miracle. Her mother made special du’a for her when she was in a womb to keep her away from shayaan.
رَبِّ إِنِّى نَذَرْتُ لَكَ مَا فِى بَطْنِى مُحَرَّرًا فَتَقَبَّلْ مِنِّىٓ ۖ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ فَلَمَّا وَضَعَتْهَا قَالَتْ رَبِّ إِنِّى وَضَعْتُهَآ أُنثٰى وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا وَضَعَتْ وَلَيْسَ الذَّكَرُ كَالْأُنثٰى ۖ وَإِنِّى سَمَّيْتُهَا مَرْيَمَ وَإِنِّىٓ أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطٰنِ الرَّجِيمِ
“My Lord! I have vowed unto Thee that which is in my belly as a consecrated (offering). Accept it from me. Lo! Thou, only Thou, art the Hearer, the Knower! And when she was delivered she said: My Lord! Lo! I am delivered of a female – Allah knew best of what she was delivered – the male is not as the female; and lo! I have named her Mary, and lo! I crave Thy protection for her and for her offspring from Satan the outcast.”
[Al Imran: 35-36]
Beautiful Du’a in Qur’an:
One of the most beautiful du’a in Qur’an for righteous spouse and righteous child is:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
“And who say: Our Lord! Vouchsafe us comfort of our wives and of our offspring, and make us patterns for (all) those who ward off (evil).”
Recommended Deeds for Mothers:
- Try to be in the state of wudu to keep shaytaan away from you.
- Recite the Qur’an as much as possible as it has an impact on growing fetus.
- 3.Give sadaqah daily to protect yourself and your child. As the hadith of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ:
Protect yourself from hell fire even it is from part of date.
(Bukhari and Muslim).
- With physical changes it is obvious to feel emotional ups and downs but try to keep yourself calm and refrain from anger.
- Don’t lie or backbite as it is strongly forbidden in Islam.
May Allah (عَزَّوَجَلَّ) bless us all with pious children who become a means of sadqah-e-jahriah for us. Aameen.